This article has me…somewhat debating with myself. The premise: A Headmistress warns women cannot have it all. We can’t have a career AND a family.
She warns us that we need to decide WHAT we want at a young age.
The longer we wait to have kids the harder it will be, which is true.
When I was younger, I thought I would be married by 22 and have kids by 24—and as I am close to my 28th birthday, this has not been the case…obviously.
Of course I want it all, but career has always come first. I have shared my fears about waiting too long to have kids, but at the same time, there is concern that if you leave your job to do the Mom thing, you risk your job. Some managers look at women that have kids, and think work isn’t as important to them anymore. I have great managers, and have been so accommodating to the Moms in the building…but of course you never know until it happens.
I am just thinking out loud here, but can we have it all? Can you be in a successful career and moving up AND have a family? Do we really have to make a choice? I know many women that have both, but they fought for it. What about single Dads? Are they looked at differently? Do they struggle with the work life balance.
Perhaps this head mistress is just letting young women that there will be a struggle at some point…I do want to believe we can have it all. Why can’t we? It won’t be easy…it will actually be hard at times…but if it is what we want, then we can do it right?