Quite the discussion happening on Mumsnet in regards to one post. In a lengthy post, a woman shared her thoughts that daughters should be encouraged to “marry well” (a.k.a marry rich) because it makes life easier.
I get the point trying to be made here. Yes, money can make things easier. ALTHOUGH, it should NEVER be the first thing someone thinks about when it comes to marriage. In the post she even wrote “Marrying well doesn’t mean a good marriage or relationship, but it does make things easier.”
There were many people who agreed with this idea
Msrisotto – I agree with you. Lots of women in marriages where they’re economically dependent on men and feel unable to escape a miserable relationship. I’m not saying ‘marry just for money’, I’m saying really consider it with all other things considered.
Relationships can go sour no matter what the situation – but I do know that money issues is a huge cause of relationship strife and that life is just a lot easier when there’s money going round
Marrying ‘well’ makes life a lot easier for women.
Of course many DISAGREED
NO! We should be telling our DD’s to aim for the f****** sky so they are able to support themselves.
I certainly wouldn’t want my DD to ‘marry well’ just so she could be a SAHM, especially if it wasn’t a happy, loving relationship.
Marrying well would mean someone you love who loves and respects you back. Money doesn’t not mean a happy life.
I’d be saddened if i felt I had to give my daughters this advice rather than teaching them what builds a strong healthy relationship.
It doesn’t feel like something a staunch feminist would say or do.
Again, I see the point she was trying to make here BUT at the end of the day money can’t buy happiness. Does it make certain things easier? Of course, but there are many people who don’t have a lot of money that are in very strong relationships. My Mom always encouraged us to do what we love, and to find a partner that loved us and respected us. Relying on someone else to support you is not a good plan. If you want to be a stay-at-home Mom, that is your passion, that is your choice but marrying rich to do that does not guarantee a happy life. My advice would be — do what you love, find your passion, work hard at it, find someone who loves and respects you.